If you’ve tried out the top dating sites of the last few years, you’ve probably noticed that there’s an ongoing trend of girls posting their Instagram handles on their dating profiles. Some of them even urge you to “follow” them or “DM” them there. That’s because the majority of them feel safer chatting to strangers on Instagram than on a random dating site.
So, let’s say you want to approach one of them – how do you go about it? You won’t have to look any further to find out.
#Single & “Places” Tab
This one’s great for those who do not have a specific girl in mind that they’d like to approach.
When girls are single on Instagram, they are usually quite transparent about it. You can begin your search on the most recent posts on the #single or #singlelife tags. If that doesn’t work, you can always use the app’s map feature to search for people in your area.
All you have to do is scroll through the results and find one that catches your eye.
Get A Feel For Her Account
So, you found the one you’ve been looking for, now it’s time to send that first message, right? WRONG! A random message from someone who doesn’t even follow her is more likely to creep her out than intrigue her.
As a first step, scroll through her most recent posts. Get a feel of her likes and dislikes, her hobbies, and the places she frequents.
Finding a few things you have in common with her is always a plus. You don’t know, you could be hanging around at the same coffee shop. That gives you a chance to approach her in real life too.
As mentioned in the previous point, she is more likely to reply to a message from a follower of hers than any random guy who just happened to “find” her account.
Avoid making the mistake of messaging or interacting with her profile in any way before following her first.
If you’ve accidentally liked one of those posts from months ago before you follow her, do not attempt to reverse it!
Like & Comment On Low Traction Images
And speaking about “liking” her images, if the girl’s a real looker then “commenting” on her more revealing images might not be the best choice.
See your interactions with her posts as another way for her to notice you in her sea of followers. Most of them will leave a so-called “thirst comment” on that bikini picture so, you have better chances “liking” a picture of her dog or “commenting” on a picture of her new manicure.
Try to resist the urge to tell her how gorgeous she looks on posts where her cleavage or rear end is obviously the focal point.
Slide Into Her DMs
Now, it is finally time to make your move. Try to incorporate tips from each of the points above in your approach.
Keep in mind the things you have in common! If you are a dog person and she has a few images of her pets on her profile, you have a good icebreaker in hand.
Try not to come off as too strong! You might know all there is to know from her Instagram profile but, don’t forget to show genuine interest in the things she talks about.
And finally, stay respectful but be transparent. At the end of the day, you are interested in something more than being internet penpals so, be daring when sharing your intentions.
The truth is that there’s no sure-fire way to make a girl on Instagram interested in you, although having an impressive profile for yourself is usually a plus.
If she ends up not being interested in you, there’s plenty of fish in the Instagram sea. Trying to convince her can lead to her blocking you, and even ridiculing you to her followers. So the best thing you can do is move on to your next potential Instagram conquest.
Now, you know how!